...excuse me...what?
So the other day something happened to me for the um-teenth time and it finally really started to bother me so I just wanted to make a post about it. So I pretty much never wear makeup anymore unless I'm going to work or going out during the weekends, and I've never felt weird about it or anything just because it's never crossed my mind. Anyways, a friend of mine in class the other day saw me walk into class and immediately said "what's wrong with you?" and at first I was like wait, what, what's happening? until she then obviously saw my confused expression to then she further elaborate that my face looked pretty red and I had bags under my eyes, so she was wondering if I was sick.
And I was just like "..uh...no...just not wearing makeup" to which I awkwardly laughed and explained that because I'm both Irish & Scottish, I was pretty destined to be pale and blotchy. Also, here in the east coast of the U.S., we've been getting pretty cold weather and super bad wind chills, and its all just made going outdoors even more of a struggle. Anyways, because of the windchill, my already pale and blotchy complexion was more red due to being wind bitten because the weather was extra terrible that day; and I found myself explaining that as well to my friend.
As I was sitting there, it kinda struck me that I was automatically giving all these logical reasons why I was so "sick" looking, and that I felt the need to defend myself. I'm not sure if it was insecurity, since I don't really have an issue with not wearing makeup, but it was kinda crazy how I felt had to explain why my body looked...normal, I guess?
I don't know, it just really bothered me. Not that I'm saying I'm tooting my own horn for not wearing makeup, or I'm against girls who wear makeup, but damn, I mean women pay money for blush...yet here I am with my naturally rosy cheeks and I look sick? Major yikes.
All I'm saying is people, not only should you watch what you say when it comes to commenting on someone's appearance, but also you shouldn't feel the way I felt and don't let others make you feel weird for showing your acne, or flushed cheeks, or anything really, in public. It's cool if you like wearing makeup just cause it's fun and pretty, or cause it helps your esteem, or whatever, do that all ya want girls! but just don't feel ashamed for showing your bare face either! (っ˘ω˘ς )♡♡♡
-K
I have acne, and have been receiving treatment from the dermatologist for it. He told me to not use moisturizer and compact powder. My face has been looking extra icky, because all the blemishes are being forced out and my skin is dry. I'm already very insecure, but it really really bothered me how so many people would point out my blemishes I wasn't allowed to cover. They asked, "What's wrong with your face?" "Do you have chicken pox?". I just found it pretty hurtful, how everyone has this expectation that everyone has perfect skin :/
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When things like that happen, I like to see it as short term pain for long term gain. I know it's a struggle to have to deal with the insecurity of your skin, especially when you have people constantly bringing it up, but hey, try your best to ignore them. If it helps, tell them you feel upset when they make comments, and you're going through treatments and this is just a part of the process, not that it's any of their concern anyways. You're strong for going through treatments and following your doctors orders, despite people's need to comment! In the end, it's YOUR skin, not theirs.
DeleteDo what is best for you, and learn to cope with people's rude comments, that's what I do! Thankfully you're growing older and moving onto uni, and people are more mature there (at least a little bit...) and people are less likely to make such uncalled for comments. In the end, people only make comments because of their own insecurity. Most people might comment on your lack of covering up, because they have the same problem but instead they do cover it up a lot so they may be jealous that you don't do the same thing.
Make sure you speak out to others if you're ever upset about something! But also don't let negative comments get you down either. You're taking care of you, and that's the only thing that actually matters and is important! <333
Thank you so so much <3 this really helps! I'm taking baby steps to just be at peace with myself, and i guess that's not any of the rude people's business!!
DeleteThat's how I feel with the "no makeup tag" IMO it indirectly does hurt people that dont have the confidence in themselves and looking at people who do, it's hard. not everyone can exude such bravo. anyways, that was my opinion why i didn't openly participate in the no makeup tag and this post just reminded me of it. but yeah i get the same when i wear my glasses/wear little to no makeup, am i ill? no i'm just not wearing it so try not to be a rude person saying i look 'bad'. no one wakes up all magical and ready. anyways yeah my inner thoughts on how i feel when people are too critical about 'no makeup' that the default becomes an expected flawless face of some sort.
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